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💒Respect the Aisle: A Guide to Slaying Wedding Guest Etiquette

  • Writer: Tracey Houston
    Tracey Houston
  • 1 day ago
  • 3 min read
WEDDING GUEST ETIQUETTE

Hey Besties, Belles, Beaus, and Brides! So, you’ve been invited to a wedding. Congrats! YAY! So fun! Also, stressful if you've never been to a wedding OR haven't been in 10 years! Whether it’s your cousin’s luxe vineyard vow-sesh or your college friend’s backyard boho bash, it’s time to lock in your guest game. Weddings in 2025–2026 are all about intentional vibes, so let’s make sure you show up looking cute, acting right, and not accidentally stealing the spotlight.

Here’s your ultimate do’s and don’ts guide for wedding guest etiquette:

🌸 BEFORE THE BIG DAY🌸

DO RSVP ASAP

Your RSVP isn't optional. It’s not a vibe check—it’s a headcount. The couple needs to know who’s pulling up for food, drinks, and the whole experience. Don’t leave them on “read.” Tap that “yes” or “no” and hit send.

DON’T Assume a Plus-One

If it doesn’t say “+1,” don’t bring a situationship. Wedding invites aren’t Tinder dates. Ask politely if you’re unsure, but never just show up with someone. That’s ✨cringe✨ and throws off the seating chart.

DON’T Assume Kids Are Invited

Just like a plus-one, if your little sibling, niece, or child isn’t explicitly named on the invite, they’re not invited. Weddings aren't daycare—and some couples are going for a no-kids, no-chaos vibe. Always double-check before bringing your mini plus-one. Don’t put the couple in an awkward spot. It's giving read the room.

👗 DRESS CODE DRIP👗

DO Respect the Dress Code

Black tie? Garden party? Coastal chic? Interpret it through your own personal aesthetic, but don’t ignore it. If the couple wants cottagecore, don’t show up looking like you’re headed to EDC. If they include a color pallet, follow it. Just because you aren't a fan of green, do not throw off their aesthetic because you prefer hot pink.

DON’T Wear White (or Cream, or Ivory or Super Light Beige)

This rule isn’t outdated, it’s timeless. The only one who should be in white is the person saying “I do.” Even if your ‘fit is giving major Pinterest-core, skip the ivory—respect the bride or groom’s main character moment. If you think, I wonder if this is ok, assume it isn't and pick another look.

CEREMONY

DO Arrive Early

Early is on time, on time is late, and late is... well, it’s a no. Unless you’re trying to open the doors mid-aisle walk like you’re in a Netflix drama—be there 15–30 mins early.

DON’T Be on Your Phone

No TikToks during the vows. If there’s a sign asking for an unplugged ceremony, take it seriously. Let the pros get the pics—you can post your OOTD after the couple says “I do.”

DO Sit Where You’re Told

If there’s a seating sign, follow it. The couple literally curated this day—don’t rearrange things because you want a better view for your Instagram Story.


RECEPTION

DO Bring the Energy

Time to turn up—appropriately. Dance, laugh, clink your glass, and hype up the couple. Be the good vibes friend. Weddings aren’t the Met Gala—no standing around looking bored. Participate!

DON’T Overdo It with the Open Bar

Yes, it's free. No, that doesn’t mean go feral. You don’t want to be that guest who ends up crying in the bathroom or starting a conga line no one asked for. Sip slow, stay cute.

DO Respect the Playlist

If there’s a DJ or band, don’t bug them with 10 song requests. This isn’t your house party. The couple probably made a vibe-specific playlist—and they get final say. (Unless it’s “Mr. Brightside.” Then, yeah, scream it.)

🛍️ WEDDING GIFT GAME🛍️

DO Send a Gift

Even if you can’t make it, sending a gift = classy move. Check the registry (linked in the invite or on their wedding website). Group gifts with friends are also peak budget-friendly brilliance.

DON’T Go Rogue

No DIY “meaningful” gifts unless you know the couple super well. This isn’t the time to reinvent the wheel. Respect the registry and keep the chaos in the group chat.

✨ LASTLY: BE NORMAL✨

Be chill, be kind, be present. Weddings in 2025–2026 are about love, connection, and curated aesthetics. Don’t mess it up by being main-character energy at someone else’s event. Support the couple, look hot, and keep it classy.

TL;DR:

✅ RSVP early, dress well, follow directions, and bring good energy❌ Don’t wear white, crash the plus-one, or black out at the bar

Be a 10/10 guest. Because honestly? If you slay the wedding guest game, you're getting invited to more. Any other questions about etiquette? Drop them below!

Now go forth, RSVP with confidence, wear something fire, and be the guest that future couples fight to invite. 💅✨


xo tracey



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